How Three Parents Handle Allowances for Their Kids

Like so many other aspects of parenting, there’s no clear-cut approach to allowances. Heck, there’s not even a single definition for the word (go ahead and look it up).

Depending on your own childhood experience, current financial situation and what your kid already knows about money, broaching the topic of allowances can be a very complicated thing.

The allowance topics being debated include:

The appropriate age to start giving an allowance – that is, if you feel that kids should receive them in the first place.  

Whether an allowance should be given unconditionally – as a form of practice money – or tied to chores.  

Should kids have carte blanche on how to spend an allowance?

We spoke to three parents, each with vastly different approaches to how and why they chose – or chose not – to give their children allowances.

But wherever you net out, keep this in mind:

“It’s important to have a consistent approach,” said Sharon Danes, a family economist at the University of Minnesota, “whatever that approach may be.”

Allowance as ‘guaranteed basic income’

Aaron Herrick

Resides: Houston, TX

Children: two (ages 11 and 13)

Allowance: Yes – given without conditions.

What’s your philosophy regarding allowances?

We decouple allowances from chores. When I grew up, allowances were linked to chores, and I found myself saying, ‘You know, I actually don’t need the $5 this week, I’m not doing my chores.’ We need our kids to establish financial responsibility for themselves. I wanted to avoid the I want, I want, I wants. If you want, then you save.

How much is the allowance and how often is it given?

We give it out on a monthly basis, and it’s currently up to $30 a month. It’s a guaranteed basic income. They can spend it on anything legal. My son likes to buy video games. My daughter used to spend everything on candy. Now, she’s saving because she wants to go on a family trip to Paris. I said, okay, this is how much your ticket will cost. She’ll pay for hers and we’ll cover the rest of the family. They can also earn more by doing special projects, like taking care of their cousins.

When did you start giving the allowance?

As soon as the gimme, gimme, gimme started, which was about 7.

Have you noticed any effects (good or bad) from your method?

There’s definitely a lot more dialogue about money. And it’s not stressful. It’s, ‘This is money and it’s a part of the world.’ They can actually see what’s going on with their money, which is good.

“You get what you earn”

Margaret Turner

Resides: Annapolis, Md.

Children: three (ages 14, 17 and 19)

Allowance: Yes – and they have to earn it.

What’s your philosophy on allowances?

You get what you earn. There are expected responsibilities, and then things you do above and beyond. It’s by the job, or piecemeal. In life, some jobs are harder and pay more, and some jobs are easier and pay less. From early on, kids should learn that if you work harder, you get more money. Some weeks, they don't end up doing the chores, and they don’t get paid. Each kid can also ask for more chores if they’re trying to earn more for something. This approach also saves me from having to nag all the time; they can pick and choose what they like to do. I’ll text the kids from work and say, ‘These things need to be done – you sort out who’s doing them.’ It’s not acceptable to do nothing, but if one of the kids is having a busy week, I might let them slide.

How much is the allowance and how often is it given?

We give different amounts based on the job. So, $3 to empty the dishwasher, $1 for watering plants. We also have a well, and every week someone has to lug 50 pound bags of salt from the garage to the basement, and dump salt in the water conditioning unit. That’s a $10 a week job.

When did you start giving the allowance?

Our oldest was in kindergarten.

Have you noticed any effects (good or bad) from your method?

Hannah [the 19-year-old], especially, is very money conscious and savvy about money. She’s in New York for school, and is very cognizant of how much things cost. I like to think it’s because of how they were raised. They don’t just get anything they want. They have to earn money to buy their own stuff. I think they’ve learned the value of money. 

“It’s how you contribute"

Liz Steinmetz

Resides: Philadelphia, Pa.

Children: three (ages 2, 4 and 7)

Allowance: No.

What’s your philosophy on allowances?

Allowances are rewarding contributing to the household, which is something they should be doing anyway. I don’t get an allowance for doing the dishes. It’s how you contribute to the family. It’s being a part of a community. I’m trying to instill that in them.

Then how do you teach your kids about money?

They get money occasionally from grandparents, or for birthdays, and we have a money jar we put it in that’s divided into three sections: saving, spending and sharing. We started doing that with my oldest when he started asking for stuff regularly at the store. He spends his money on toys and treats. We’re involved in a church, and he’ll donate to the church. Sometimes he’ll get upset by something going on in the news, and I tell him we can use his share money to help. He’s donated some of his share money to the ACLU.

Have you noticed any effects (good or bad) from your method?

When my oldest asks for things now, he’ll say, ‘how much money do we have?’ I think he’s connecting the dots.

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